A dad from New Jersey purchased his son a four-bedroom house in Pennsylvania after he attended college there and chose to stay instead of going back to New Jersey.
The father reasoned that the house would be a smart investment because they could visit it sometimes and spend time with their child while traveling from New Jersey to Manhattan for work.
The original poster (OP) was responsible for paying the house’s taxes, maintenance, and services while his son was in charge.
Both men found great satisfaction in the arrangement—that is, until the man’s son met his future bride.
While living in the Pennsylvania house, the young man got to know a woman, and they soon became close. After he proposed, his new girlfriend moved in with him and took over his father’s house.
When the young man’s family met his future bride, everything appeared to be going well and everyone got along nicely. But when the subject of the wedding was raised, things took a bad turn.
The family threw a “get to know you” BBQ at the Pennsylvania home to honor the engaged couple and introduce their son and new daughter-in-law’s relatives.
Everything seemed to be going well at the BBQ at first, when the young guy himself, the OP’s wife and daughter, her mother and sisters, the OP’s son’s fiancée, and the OP himself entered the house together.
Shortly after everyone else left the house, the OP’s wife and daughter came out, both of them appearing quite upset. They refused to explain why they were returning to New Jersey after informing the OP that they were going immediately.
Without asking any further questions, the OP drove the women in his life back to their homes. Once they were home and the women had had time to gather themselves, he found out what went wrong.
While entering the OP’s home with his wife and kid, the future bride’s family informed the OP’s family that they were not “their kind of people” and were therefore not invited to the wedding.
This appalled the OP, who called his son to ask what he thought of the circumstance. He revealed:
“He informs me that her family believes we are unworthy and will humiliate them at a family wedding, and that none of us are invited to the wedding.”
After the phone chat, the OP waited a week to calm down before traveling from New Jersey to Pennsylvania to have a face-to-face conversation with his son. But what shocked and enraged him was what he found when he got there.
The OP had moved in without notifying him, so when he arrived at his Pennsylvania house, he found his prospective daughter-in-law and her family there instead of him.
When his prospective daughter-in-law’s family asked him why he was there, he stated that he had been left out of the wedding and that was why he had gone to talk to his son. Then they told him to get out of their house. The original poster acknowledged that
“I snapped and gave them a 30-day ultimatum to leave. Inform my son that I’m selling the house and that he is welcome to move elsewhere with all of you. I list the house for sale with a local realtor.
Although the OP’s son wasn’t home when the incident happened, his fiancée called him at work to let him know what had happened since she thought the son, not his father, was the rightful owner of the house.
Then the son of the OP contacted and asked why his father was selling his house. In response, the OP said that his son had moved out because he didn’t want to be near his family and was living there without paying rent. “In-laws seem to take over and we no longer count,” the original poster said.
If the young man, his fiancée, and her family didn’t vacate the house within 30 days, a lawyer would evict them. Those who saw the post advised the man that he wasn’t being unreasonable and that he should get legal assistance immediately. Rather, they thought the OP was entitled to kick them out.