Envision enduring the Great Depression, World War II, the Civil Rights Movement, and ultimately surviving to see the United States of America’s first African-American president. In 2010, President Obama even issued them a signed letter of praise!
Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher, the couple in love, shattered the record for the longest marriage in the world. They were joined in marriage on May 13, 1924. At 84 years old, they broke the record for the longest marriage back in 2008.
It appears that this is an impossible task in the modern society we live in. The majority of marriages dissolve before they ever start! An estimated 41% of first marriages, 60% of second marriages, and 73% of third marriages terminate in divorce, according to research findings. Then why did this couple break the world record by being together for such a long time? How do they keep it so secret?
They were questioned about how they handled marital crises and persevered through difficult times. The couple that genuinely endured till “death did them apart” provided the following straightforward responses:
1. For what reason did you decide that you could live out your days together? Did you feel any fear?
Our relationship was growing more stable and secure by the day. Divorce was never, ever a possibility or even an idea.
2. How could you tell your partner was the right person for you?
Before getting married, we were the greatest of friends and grew up together. A friend is for life, but our union was a lifetime partnership.
3. Having been married for more than 80 years, is there anything you would do differently?
Not a single thing would we change. Our marriage is not a mystery; we simply did what was necessary for our family and each other. (I suppose the secret is there.)
4. What guidance would you give someone attempting to hold onto the hope that Mr. Right is truly in their corner?
Zelmyra My own was right around the bend! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know for sure.
5. What was the best advise you have ever heard on marriage?
Honor, encourage, and converse with one another. Be truthful, obedient, and honest. Give each other your undivided love.
6. What qualities make a good partner most important?
Zelmyra: A decent provider and a diligent worker. Although the 1920s were difficult, Herbert always desired and gave us the best. I had a wonderful husband!
7. Which Valentine’s Day memory is your favorite?
Zelmyra: I cook dinner every day. Herbert surprised me by making dinner for me after work! He cooks really well!
Herbert: I told her she could unwind and I would make dinner for her. Her expression and her spotless dish brightened my day! (This has brightened my day!)
8. You were married at an early age; how did you both manage to develop as people without becoming less of a pair?
Everyone shares in the celebration when they sow a seed and reap the harvest. Although we work alone, we achieve more as a team.
9. Out of your 85 years of marriage, what is your favorite memory?
Five children, ten grandchildren, nine great-grandchildren, and one great-great-grandchild make up our heritage.
10. Does communication become simpler over time? How do you maintain your composure?
We talk more now that the kids are older. Together, we can take pleasure in our time on the porch or in our rocking chairs.
11. How did you handle having to spend extended amounts of time apart physically?
Herbert: When Z went to the hospital with our fifth kid, we were separated for two months. That was the hardest period of my life. I would have gone crazy if Zelmyra’s mother hadn’t helped me with the house and the other kids.
12. What is the most crucial thing to keep in mind after a poor relationship day ends?
Never keep score in marriage; it’s not a competition. God has placed you both on the same winning team.
13. Does warfare have a purpose?
Never in a bodily sense! Recognize that disagreements are acceptable and stand up for what’s important. Learn to adjust, not to snap!
14. What is the one trait that unites you all and transcends all others?
As Christians, we both hold the concept of God. Matrimony is an oath to the Lord. Every day, we pray for and alongside one other.
Zelmyra and Herbert’s marriage served as an inspiration, and we are fortunate to have their guidance. They were obviously still as much in love as the day they were married after 87 years of marriage.
Herbert died in 2011 at the age of 105, while Zelmyra died a few years later in 2013 at the age of 105. The couple had been together for 87 years when Herbert passed away.
Although it’s not simple, it is possible to be committed for life! Everyone could use a little assistance and guidance! If you appreciated a bit of this insightful love advise, please send some of it on to your friends on social media. This is something that everyone ought to know!