It goes without saying that most people would give up everything, even a planned vacation, to be there for their significant other in the event of an unanticipated parent’s passing. One Redditor, nevertheless, felt that her circumstances—vacation with her mother, sister, aunt, and cousin—should take precedence over her boyfriend’s mother’s funeral.
She shared her experience with the Reddit AITA group, asking people to weigh in on whether she was mistaken to miss her boyfriend’s mother’s burial in favor of a family vacation.
She started out her tirade by complaining that because her family members all had hectic schedules, it was already tough to plan “girls’ trips” with them. It doesn’t sound all that different from the rest of America, though, to be honest.
She was also keen to clarify that, despite seeing her boyfriend for two years, she had never been close to any of his family members and had only ever been “friendly” with them.
Then, OP claims that her boyfriend’s mother unexpectedly passed away right before she was scheduled to leave on vacation.
She consoled her boyfriend and thought that since she had already committed to going on vacation with her family, she didn’t really need to attend the funeral after fulfilling her nice girlfriend quota.
Even though he was devastated by his mother’s passing and understood that she would lose all of her vacation money, her boyfriend still made her an offer of $1,500 if she could attend the funeral with him. She declined the kind offer despite it, saying she couldn’t decide between him and her family.
The fact that OP’s mother and aunt gave her the useless counsel that “it’s ultimately your decision,” and that her sister and cousin urged her to stick to the vacation itinerary, didn’t improve the problem. OP’s family truly wanted her to go on vacation. OP made the decision to travel on the vacation as scheduled and believed that she might get emotional support from her partner while she was abroad by sending him frequent texts and phone calls.
Unsurprisingly, the guy ignored her messages for several days, prompting the person asking on Reddit if she had “messed up.” And her feelings were not spared or held back by the Redditors.
Several others brought up the boyfriend’s loss of his mother, who is arguably the most significant person in anyone’s life. She’s been his long-term girlfriend, therefore she ought to understand it and support him. In my opinion, everyone has attended the memorial services for friends who aren’t even close to them.
Following up on his tirade, one commenter asked the original poster how she was even able to have fun knowing that her partner was having trouble dealing with the death of his mother.
The commentator concluded by stating that, sure, she was incorrect and that there was cause for a split.
Relationship-minded commenters also chipped in, saying they wouldn’t think twice about being there if their significant others’ families experienced sorrow.
Eventually, the original poster descended into the comments section, a.k.a. the rabbit hole, to elaborate on her explanations.
It was ineffective, nonetheless, as every one of her remarks was welcomed with a barrage of brutal reality from Redditors – she was conceited and ought to have supported her lover within his time of need, even if it meant forfeiting the trip.
A lot of wise counsel was also given to OP, such as delaying talking about the problem until later when they have more time to talk about it rather than “ambushing” him immediately before he leaves for work.
Even while it can appear that OP is the target of a lot of criticism, some of it is legitimate. When their mother passes away, who wouldn’t support their long-term partner? What do you think?
